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my boys

November 6, 2011
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My boys are doing so amazingly well,Robin may be on Jeremy Kyle this month as an inspirational child and the microcephaly awareness day was amazing such support shown.

My youngest still has problems walking his boots from the orthopedic at the hospital help a little the nightly physio on his feet and ankles are keeping his tendons supple his latest seizure meds which have been upped a little are fingers crossed working a little better so less seizures.The autistiuc part of him is a work in progress he is so bright,his nickname is Sheldon aka shelly bean (if you have seem big bang theory Sheldon character is so like him) the only issue that really seems to concern him at the moment and as a child who keeps on asking as once its on his mind he wont stop asking until he gets a suitable answer,it  is at the moment grandad can I see him? my dad passed away after his battle with cancer and he comprehends in a childlike way he can’t see grandad as he is in heaven.He is aware he has a mom and a dad who both have parents so he has another grandad a paternal one.

conversation goes something like this…

I..Can I see grandad.

Myself..Grandad is in heaven you remember.

I..I know,I mean my dads one.

Myself..hmm I will have to talk to them or your dad about it.

I..ok phone them,they can come to my house.

Myself..ok son I will see what I can do.

This conversation then was continued and brought up regularly and small few day intervals.

I..send my picture to grandad

Myself..err which grandad?

I..the one who isnt dead,whats his name? does he look like daddy or me? does he have a moustache like your dad?

(after lots of questions about him I couldnt answer..)

Myself..ok I will write to daddy and ask him to answer your questions.

I..ok you can phone him at work.

myself..he might be busy.

I..he might not be.

After a couple of months of these questions and him getting frustrated by my lack of being able to answer his questions and his father ignoring his sons plea for his help filling in the gaps (via my phone call and letter explaining his son requires his help support or input on questions he asked) I decided to go to the organ grinder not the monkey.I wrote to the grandparents saying basically the questions their grandson is asking and if they would fill in the blanks and Offered if they wish to see him as never have or contacted to ask the offer still stands.

His dad was phoned by a Third party to say as he was not being a help towards his son I had gone via his parents and wrote to them,he was not happy.But desperate times call for desperate measures.I recieved a letter a few days later stating until the night before they didn’t know we existed as their son knowing the letter was coming dropped the bomb shell.Ugh I felt bad as 1: what if they are really old shock is no good. 2:why would a father be ashamed of a child not wanting to share him with family.

I am still non the wiser on any details for my sons questions as his grandmother said let the shock sink in and will decide what they want at not to build on expectations also had my motives for bringing this to their attention questioned?

ok yes shock I agree but four months on no decision! Yes decided what they want,but shouldn’t it be as a young child what the child needs not a whats going to effect them as what harm is sending a young boy a christmas card or a birthday card or a trip for an hours drive in a car to see sports day nativity play.

questioning my motives..Shouldn’t they question how come their son hid pregnancy and birth and childs life from them,how didn’t they notice any character mood swings I know if my children are lying upset worried etc Why their son felt scared guilty or ashamed to talk to them.yes maybe their christian attitude to having a child out of wedlock was a factor,but surely rejecting a child is a greater sin.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Teach the children

December 11, 2008
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“Teach the children,Teach them the old meaning of christmas-the meaning that christmas nowadays has forgotten”

Teach the children that the shiny star on the tree,was the heavenly sign of promise long ages ago.God promised a saviour for the world and the star was a sign of fullfillment of that promise.the countless shining stars at night-one for each man-now show the burning hope of all mankind.

teach the children red is the first colour of christmas.It was first used by faithful people to remind them of the blood which was shed for all people by the savior.Christ gave his life and shed his blood that every man may have gods gift of eternal life.Red is deep ,intense vivid-it is the greatest colour of all.it is the symbol of the gift of god.

the second colour of christmas,Green. “the pure green colour of the statley fir tree remains green all year round this depicts the everlasting hope of mankind.green is youthful,hopeful abundant of colour of nature.All needles point heavenward-symbols of mans returning thoughts towards heaven.the great green tree has been mans best friend.It has sheltered him,warmed him and made beauty for him.

Teach the children Candles show mans thanks for the star of long ago.Its small light is the mirror of starlight at first candles were placed on the trees-they were like glowing stars shining against the dark green.The coloured lights have now taken over in rememberance.

Teach the children “a bow is placed on a present to remind us of the spirit of brotherhood of man.we should remember that the bow is tied as men should be tied,all of us together,with the bonds of good will towards each other.Good will forever is the message of the bow.

Teach the children that the candy cane placed high on the tree,represents the crook of the shepard,the crook on the staff bring back the strayed sheep to the flock.the candy cane represents the helping hand we should show at christmas time,The candy cane is the symbol that we are our brothers keepers.

Please teach the children that a holly wreathe placed on the door symbolises the eternal nature love;it never ceases stops or ends.It is one continuous round of affection.The wreathe does double duty It is made of many things and colours.It should remind us of all things of christmas.

please teach the children.


Boots

December 4, 2008
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As I had to get Robin some antibiotics for a urinary tract infection,and as I spend quite a bit off money in boots nappies wipes nappy rash cream all the essentials that you have buy,my boots loyalty points a massed to quite a tidy sum.I looked around at all the gift sets perfume and had a slight thought perhaps I’d treat myself to a bottle of expensive perfume…that lasted a short while then I thought the money would be put to better use so I gathered up basic first aid kits plasters paracetamol,polo mints baby wipes pocket tissues etc  and paid with my points and have sent them off to SOS support our soldiers as some troops don’t have family who can send them care packages.

As its christmas its perfect time off year to show goodwill towards fellow man,thats the way we can make the world a better place one act of random kindness at a time a principal that I’m teaching my children that treat people how you would like to be treated,sometimes a smile or random conversation to people wether via a comment on blog or in bus queue can really make someones day,its the easiest and cheapest way of helping someone as this world can seem a sea of faces,and human compassion and communication is something everyone needs.we have many blessings given us daily we sometimes don’t appreciate them and take for granted all we are given.