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The special mother

July 10, 2009
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The Special Mother
by Erma Bombeck
Did you ever wonder how mothers of disabled children were chosen?
Somehow I visualize God hovering over the earth selecting his instruments of propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
“This one gets a daughter. The Patron saint will be Cecelia”
“This one gets twins. The Patron saint will be Matthew”
“This one gets a son. The Patron saint…..give her Gerard. He’s used to profanity”
Finally He passes a name to an angel and smiles. “Give her a disabled child”.
The angel is curious. “Why this one God? She’s so happy”
“Exactly,” smiles God. “Could I give a disabled child to a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel!”
“But has she patience?” asks the angel.
“I don’t want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of sorrow and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she’ll handle it. I watched her today, she has that feeling of self and independence that is so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I’m going to give her has his own world. She has to make him live in her world and that’s not going to be easy.”
“But Lord, I don’t think she even believes in you”
God smiles, “No matter, I can fix that. This one is perfect – she has just enough selfishness”
The angel gasps – “Selfishness? is that a virtue?”
God nods. “If she can’t separate herself from the child occasionally she won’t survive. Yes here is a woman whom I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn’t realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a ‘spoken word’. She will never consider any ‘step’ ordinary. When her child says “Momma” for the first time she will be present at a miracle and will know it. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see…ignorance, cruelty and prejudice…and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as if she is here by my side”
“And what about her Patron saint?” asks the angel, his pen poised in mid air.
God smiles “A mirror will suffice”


full of hope

March 17, 2009
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After my earlier post today via my phone,things are picking up.
Isaac had lost a little weight but nothing to cause concern and his medicine isn’t fully controlling his epilepsy but seems to be working as well as expected so We don’t have to take the riskier option.
whilst in with the paediatric specialist he informed me he had recieved the disability forms and had to fill in five questions and his secretary would type up a letter and send it off straightaway.The questions were how many seizures does Issac have a day/ night and what type,he put up to five a day and two a night gran mals,full body shakes/jerks.Can they be predicted ? he put no,Is there a warning sign or aura before? again he put no,as not all types do and how can a two year old tell you if he did.Does he need more care supervision than a normal two year old and at risk of getting hurt because of disability? he put yes needs to be kept eye on.
The one he needed information on and was waiting to ask me was when was Isaacs last seizure,which was on the bus this morning .
He has put him down with epilepsy and autistic traits as he is too young to get a diagnosis of autism until he is nearer to four.
The doctor thought the questions on the forms were as silly as I did.
I have to wait for the beaurocrats to make a decision what help if any they decide to give him,should take another couple of weeks.
oh and the regression thing maybe down to trauma of the hospitals and tests and he should make a full recovery or sometimes memory is effected with epilepsy and medication,so to keep on practicing and refreshing his memory should help.
Isaac has had or rather got a busy week,pre-school yesterday and he came out with a sticker saying I knew the day of the week! (which amazed me as I didn’t even know he knew about time concept) he had a trip to the hospital today and is on his trip to the snow dome on friday, and he has a lovely new car to have a ride in that was a bargain £30 off ebay brand new battery operated one which I couldn’t even wire up so had to ask a friend from church to do which he did last night for me,Isaac decided the box made a lovely tractor,then robin decided it made a lovely tardis and Isaac reclaimed it this time as an aeroplane.
I think later on this week I’ll do a post of a week in pictures,I may even put the one of robin dressed as a girl for comic relief at school he raised £50 in sponsorship money only two boys were brave enough to turn up as girls one boy a yr 11 boy went the whole way and wore thongs and stockings.