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I used to have a handle on life then it broke. | January 22, 2009

Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is like expecting a bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian.
So to explain that thought,I was adviced by various people to ask for help with Isaac even if Just a few hours break as 24-7 care of a disabled or sick child takes its toll.I’m entitled to help and support,so I’ve swallowed my pride and fought against my independant I’ll manage streak and asked for a bit of support and help.I’ve been met with a resounding no..ugh
So I accept that but asked why,apparentley even though I’m a single mom I do amazing children,well fed clean all physical and emotional needs met and I don’t meet critiria.In a nut shell if I hurt or neglected my kids then I’d be able to have help support and extra financial help.Apparentle I have got the moral high ground and my children are not disadvantaged by their measuring stick,ok I cant afford holidays and latest x box etc but they have love and support more than alot of children and they know they are loved.

If the children played up and got asbos then they could go on an expenses paid trip to see the x factor,so How Do I explain to my children this theory,that as they are good can’t go on the trip!

So apparentley if I hurt my children or neglect them and I’ll get help and support,but that is never ever going to be an option.As I have told my children people of character do the right thing,not because they think it will change the world but because they refuse to be changed by the world.I’m hoping they will remember this when I tell them later.



  1. That’s unfair. You should take it further. I’m sure you are entilted to help. X x

    Comment by rob — January 22, 2009 @ 10:31 am

  2. Crazy but I’m not surprised in this topsy-turvy world we live in. At times it seems that many decent ordinary folk are deliberately disadvantaged by bureaucracy and the government.
    Take care! xx

    Comment by Flighty — January 22, 2009 @ 10:52 am

  3. dimples:I making an apointment with citizens advice,all I asked for was someone to watch Isaac for a couple of hours a week so I could go to the supermarket as the lights inside effect him and make him have seizures and if they could help towards a blanket alarm for his bed so If he has a night seizure it will sound an alarm,its for safety..they are about £300 -£400 you’d think i’d asked for the moon.
    I don’t normally feel sorry for myself but I am today,frustrating xx

    Comment by fraggle — January 22, 2009 @ 2:01 pm

  4. flighty:yes beaurocrats make decisions on my childs needs and have never even met him. xx

    Comment by fraggle — January 22, 2009 @ 2:04 pm

  5. Dear Fav single mum u are not feeling sorry for yourself, just let down by the systems x

    Comment by rob — January 22, 2009 @ 4:43 pm

  6. dimples:Thanks just one of them days when need a hug xx

    Comment by fraggle — January 22, 2009 @ 6:55 pm

  7. consider yaself as hugged as i can manage on here 🙂 x

    Comment by rob — January 22, 2009 @ 7:04 pm

  8. dimples:thanks your a sweetie 🙂 x

    Comment by fraggle — January 22, 2009 @ 7:06 pm

  9. Fraggle, I’m so very sorry. Your plight is a little bit like the big problem over here with the big corporations getting a bailout – the good guys who have kept their heads barely above water, paying their bills, making good business decisions…. they don’t get help. I hope you find a solution and the help that you need.

    Comment by nikkipolani — January 24, 2009 @ 5:11 am

  10. nikki:thanks I will keep trying and am praying it will get easier xx

    Comment by fraggle — January 24, 2009 @ 4:33 pm

  11. So very unfair! I truly hope this can be sorted and a solution can be found. I know it’s hard but you have to keep on at them. I hope they find their sanity soon! (hugs) xx

    Comment by daffy — January 24, 2009 @ 7:26 pm

  12. daffy:I’m going to keep trying until they listen,and have made an appointment with citisens advice to see if they can help me fight my corner. xx

    Comment by fraggle — January 25, 2009 @ 12:07 pm

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